5 mistakes to avoid when meeting him
Online dating can be a great way to meet men. But it also leaves many women feeling disappointed, hurt, and used to the point where they feel like online dating (or even dating) is definitely not for them. The thing to remember is that there are many men on the Internet. Many of them are cute as hell and they know it. For many men, the Internet is an easy way to meet easy women, not because women seek casual relationships, but because we love, trust, and have a hard time resisting a man when the chemistry is obviously there.
But that's the thing: chemistry doesn't mean you're looking for a relationship. And with the number of men available for you to meet, it's even more important to protect yourself during online dating. As much fun as you are with him, real dating DOES NOT start until you meet in person. And when you do, make sure you know the dating mistakes to avoid. In the meantime, here are 5 more mistakes to avoid in the early stages of online dating if you are looking for a serious relationship. Take care and take care of yourself and you can have a lot of fun online dating!
# 1 - Thinking that he is already "the one"
When you meet a guy online, you don't know anything about him. Still, if you get along with him right from the start, you might think you feel the chemistry before you meet. If you are prone to this type of behavior, you must be careful with yourself. Don't let yourself go too deep before you meet him and take the time to get to know him. If you do, and he's not genuine, or not looking for a relationship, he's setting himself up for pain and heartache.
It's easy for people to pretend they are different than they are online, and if you allow yourself to fall in love with him too soon, you risk not only being very disappointed, but also missing the signs that he's not right for him. you. When you invest in a relationship too early, you are likely to give and expect too much too soon. Follow the dating rules when meeting a guy online. Always make sure you know what you are receiving before giving your heart.
# 2 - drowning it with attention
Okay, you think you like what you see, but don't become an online stalker. Give him the space online that you would give him in the real world. If you are always there when online; if you always contact him as soon as he appears; If you continually send them emails and messages to demand their attention, they may be flattered at first, but they will likely soon want a space away from you. Keep your mystery by not always contacting him. Let him initiate contact sometimes and you at other times. Let you wonder what you are doing when you are not online. Wait and see how eager he is to message you. This will tell you a lot about him before he even meets you.
# 3 - Act superior, competitive, or show negative attitudes
This covers all kinds of conversation topics that might come up when you first meet. Try to avoid anything that can get hot, like politics and religion. Do not tell him everything about yourself, you do not need to sell your negative points, let him discover them in due time. Don't talk about your exes or your past history of bad relationships. Or let him know how desperate you are to be in a relationship or have children soon.
There may be times when you suspect that a man's motives are not in your best interest, especially when you begin to learn how some men work with women. But stay calm, even if you don't like something he's saying. It's better to back off gracefully rather than attack him with your suspicions or negative feelings. Be gentle while protecting yourself. Just cut ties with men who don't have good boundaries online. Self-respect is simply much more comfortable than revenge.
# 4 - talking about sex
Again, this can happen with a man you just met, but you are very attracted to yourself and you or he brings up the subject of sex. If it makes any sense, you will avoid this topic (and the men who bring it up) from the start. They are often testing it to see what it is likely to give you. And if you leave it too soon, that's the end of the romance. But, yeah, he will happily take advantage of you first. Follow the dating rules and don't reveal your body until you know what kind of man he is. Well, not if you want the relationship to go further anyway.
# 5 - Put yourself at risk
This is common advice, but be sure to follow it. Meet in a public place in full view of other people. Don't put yourself at risk by getting into a car with a man you don't know or by driving home or taking him home. If he offers you a ride, politely decline, no matter how much you like it or what kind of expensive car you have. Stay safe and make sure he knows that you value yourself too much to be put in any of those situations. Because if you don't value yourself enough to protect yourself, it is highly unlikely that he will value you that much either. Put yourself first in these situations and don't expose yourself to premature regrets. Your life and your relationship are in your hands, so protect yourself by putting yourself first.
Conclution
The more men you meet online and the more times this leads you on dates (or even setbacks and heartaches), the more you will learn to spot the telltale signs of what will and won't work, what you want in a man and what not. So be sure to keep an eye out for hidden lessons in every encounter.
What else should you watch out for? Well, if you have been online for a long time, this may mean that you are a gamer. The same if he's quick to suggest meeting up or is more interested in talking about sex than wanting to know about you. If he is easily annoyed by something you say, or bothers you, this could also be a big red card. Or if it disappears suddenly, you've probably gotten lucky with someone else. That's okay because everyone is there to meet others, so move on gracefully. But only you can protect yourself from men who aren't genuine, so keep your eyes peeled and your ears open, and trust your instincts when they say they're wrong.